Later in bed, I thought about the nest. Its emptiness and beauty moved me still. Then, I realized why. Because my home is like that nest. I created beautiful space, anticipating my little ones...click Read More
This past weekend, at a bridal shower for a neighbour’s daughter, I found myself seated at a table with 6 women I’d never met, all moms. They all knew each other...click Read More
This is my 3-part movement through childless grief in words and photos...click Read More
Any suggestion that my dogs are replacement children was always negated by the pain of my childless grief. But these dogs have given me so much. They comforted me through painful times and helped my life feel lighter. They gave me a lot of reasons to smile. I had so much love that needed somewhere to go, and they cheerfully received it...click Read More
One Mother’s Day morning, I took a quick trip into a grocery store. On my way out, I saw a plastic bucket filled with tall roses on a small table, beside the exit door. A hand-written sign was taped to the bucket. On it, I read, “For the Moms. Take one."
I paused for a moment, then I took a single red, long-stemmed rose and walked out.
We deserve roses too. Whole bunches of them.
I've not written here much about how I came to be without children. This website is about providing support, regardless of 'how' one has come to be childless. Because every person's grief is valid - the how we got here does not make it more or less so.
I want to post this now, as tonight I have created the 'How to be Supportive' page with hopes to build understanding and compassion for our experiences and community. May my story contribute to this...click Read More
Time moves along. When later in my thirties and coming to realize that motherhood was never to happen for me, I lost my capacity to enjoy these pursuits. I enrolled in some art classes and joined a ‘Running for Women’ group but found myself feeling isolated. Others bonded over conversations about their children. And, everyone seemed to assume that every person present was a parent...click Read More
I have come to realize that I will always experience life through this different lens. For me, it is not about accepting being childless, or getting over/letting go of wanting children – that’s not going to happen. There will always be moments that create a certain wistfulness....click Read More
Last year, I 'stepped out of the shadows' and submitted a piece of writing for the World Childless Week website in response to their invite for submissions about comments that hurt.
Over many years, I've certainly heard a lot of hurtful comments and questions. For a long time, I didn't know how to respond. Now, the more I write here (and the older I get!), the more openly I want to speak about my experience and the more likely I am to have the words and courage to respond....click Read More
This weekend experience in Pasadena was a turning point in my healing. Though the only Canadian in a roomful of American women who’d driven or flown from various states, I felt community. In a second-floor meeting room, over 4,000 kilometres from home, in the company of strangers, I found myself fully part of female group conversation again...click Read More
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